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3rd Sunday of Lent (A) - 1st Scrutiny - The Woman at the Well encounters the answer to her thirst.

Why is it so hard to change our lives?  Why is it so hard to leave behind bad habits and things that we know are not good for us?  Why is it so hard to stop doing certain things that we know are are a waste of time and are not generating any fruitfulness in our lives?  (For example, think of our use of the phone - scrolling through the news feed, seeing what is trending on X, seeing what is the latest on Facebook and Instagram with our friends, and getting sucked into the rabbit holes on YouTube.)  We all have inclinations to sin and to indulge in “guilty pleasures”, and even if such behaviors would not meet the clinical definition of an addiction, we know our life would be better without them.  There is part of us that is ashamed that we do these things.  We surely wouldn’t brag about them.  In fact, if we are honest, we tend to under-report by a significant factor how much we smoke, drink, or eat bad things when asked by our doctor.  Don’t we?   (Do we also “under-report” our sins when we go to confession or try to justify a certain level of sin as “normal” or “OK” because everybody else is doing it too?).  The season of Lent is about taking a serious look at the areas of our life that are in need of conversion and allowing Christ to meet us there.  We are invited to foster that encounter with Jesus through the penitential practices of prayer, fasting, and almsgiving.  So at the start of the 3rd full week of Lent, we can ask ourselves, “how we are doing?”  When we find ourselves “stuck” in a bad habit and don’t see any possibility or hope of change, it is easy to say “that is just the way I am” or to think we are “broken” in some way or blame our circumstances or the “power” that we think some substance has over us.  There may even be some self-hatred or self-loathing going on, and we convince ourselves that we deserve whatever it is that is afflicting us.  It is very common as well to turn to food, drink, and other pleasurable experiences as a means of escape or “self-medication” - as a way to distract ourselves from or numb ourselves to the pain that we feel inside - the pain of loss, the pain of failure, the pain of not thinking that I’m good enough or worthy of love.  

          I heard this story recently.  This writer was in a long-term relationship, and as a result of the unexpected death of his partner, he entered into a deep depression.  He couldn’t write anymore.  Instead, he spent his waking hours drinking - trying to numb the pain of the loss.  Every day, he would drink himself into oblivion.  He was literally drinking himself to death.  This went on for weeks.  One day, he got an idea for a screen-play.  He opened his computer and started writing.  The story began to flow.  He wrote almost non-stop for a week until he finished the screen-play.  After he printed out the draft of his screen-play, it occurred to him that the whole time he was writing - for the entire previous week, he didn’t experience a desire to drink.  What did he conclude?  When he was doing what he loved to do - when he was doing what he was made to do - he was free of the “addiction.”  He didn’t desire to drink when he discovered or rediscovered what it was that fulfilled his heart.  We can leave behind what is bad only when discover a greater love - when we discover what will  - or better - who will satisfy our heart.  

          This Third Sunday of Lent gives us the story of Jesus’ encounter with the Samaritan woman at the well.  [We also, for our catechumens - those preparing to receive the sacraments at the Easter Vigil, celebrate the First Scrutiny.  We will celebrate another scrutiny also on the 4th and the 5th Sunday of Lent.  A “scrutiny” is an examination.  In a special way today and over the next two weeks, we want to examine our lives in the light of the Gospel, and pray, especially for our catechumens but also for ourselves, that what we see happen to the Samaritan woman will happen also to us: that we will recognize our sinfulness and, in the encounter with Christ and his mercy, will ask for the “living water” that only Christ can provide.  By recognizing Him as the one who can satisfy the deep thirst of our heart  - our thirst for infinite love, we can leave behind those things that do not satisfy.  The story of Jesus’ encounter with the Samaritan woman speaks to us on many levels including Jesus revealing himself as the Messiah who would show mercy on the Samaritans who, after the Assyrian conquest of the Northern kingdom, intermarried with the 5 foreign tribes that repopulated the region and adopted the worship of their foreign gods, known in Hebrew as Baals, which means “lords” or “husbands”.  The Samaritans were Israelites who had allowed their faith to become corrupted and were considered unfaithful to the covenant or spousal relationship with the true God of Israel.  Jesus presents himself as the true bridegroom who will renew his covenant with his people.  (Allowing them to leave all those other “husbands” behind).  As we can tell from the dialogue between the woman and Jesus, and John’s commentary in the Gospel, Jews would normally avoid Samaritans out of historical animosity, and they would use nothing in common because the Jews considered the Samaritans “unclean” and unfaithful.  But Jesus doesn’t avoid this woman.  He in fact seeks her out and waits for her.  It would be very odd that someone would come to draw water at noon - the hottest time of the day, but we can imagine that this woman has come at this time because she wanted to avoid the crowd - the gaze of other women, for she was ashamed of her state in life - someone who has had multiple failed marital relationships and is currently living with a man outside of marriage.  But Jesus meets her there.  Jesus knows her past, lets her know that he knows all about her, but makes it clear that the Father is seeking her out.  In the mess of her life, Christ loves her and comes to speak with her.  It is this experience of mercy that allows the woman to leave her water jar behind.  The water jar represents her own attempts to satisfy her thirst for love and fulfillment - attempts that always leave her still thirsty.  “Maybe the next man will be different?”  (But he never is).  She was in a cycle of destructive behavior.  Only discovering the true answer to her thirst and the meaning of her thirst in Christ - what she was looking for - would she be free.  Unless we address the thirst in our soul, just trying to modify our behavior will not bring us healing.  Usually we just move from one “addiction” to another, one destructive behavior to another.  It’s a thirst problem, not a husband problem.  A common example: someone may no longer be an active alcoholic, but he will often just transfer that unfulfilled desire into work or working out or something else that becomes an idol.  

          Our salvation and ability to change comes not from our own efforts and attempts to satisfy the longing in our heart but when we encounter the thirst of God for us and respond to his invitation, recognizing and accepting a greater, more satisfying love - a love we were made for.  When we ask him for a drink, he will give us “living water”.  [The catechumens are asking for the living water of baptism.] It is the love of God that has been poured into our hearts through the Holy Spirit who has been given to us.  That is the “living water” that will well up in us to eternal life.  May this time of Lent be an opportunity to discover or rediscover God’s love for us and to be renewed in the grace of our baptism.  Let’s not be afraid of our sins or let them keep us from Christ - Christ’s love for us is greater than our sins.  He knows it all and is waiting for us at the well - the well of his mercy.