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7th Sunday in Ordinary Time (A) - “Love your enemies”

Why did you hit your brother?  Because he hit me first.  He called me a name.  When we are wronged, even though our reactions may be justified, they are often in themselves sinful.  We may “even the score” with our reaction, but the result only increases the level of hurt among the parties.  As the saying goes, “two wrongs do not make it right.”  The law from the Old Testament, “an eye for an eye and a tooth for a tooth” was intended to limit vengeance to a proportional response - that the reaction would not exceed the initial offense - that the punishment would fit the crime.  But we can see that following such a protocol results in two people being partially blind instead of just one.  The world is worse off than it was before.  Sin involves choosing something that decreases the good that is possible. The Lord is not telling us to ignore evil but not to respond to evil in a way that will increase evil.  Rather, loving one’s enemy is the only way to bring a good out of evil.  The goal for the Christian is not to wipe out the enemy but to convert the enemy by teaching the way of love.  And we cannot covert those we hurt.  So how do we reprove or correct those who have sinned (and sinned against us) without incurring sin ourselves?  How do we respond without revenge or without holding a grudge against the other person?  How can we love someone who has hurt us?  Our resistance to the command of the Lord to love is rooted in the very human perspective of justice that says, “he doesn’t deserve to be loved because of what he did.”  “He doesn’t deserve anything good because of the bad he has done.”  Or we hold on to the grudge or withhold forgiveness because we are waiting for the other to admit their mistake - recognize how they have hurt us and say “I’m sorry.”  We are waiting for them to change or make up for what they’ve done before giving them something good.  Jesus says, “love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, that you may be children of your heavenly Father.”  Loving your enemy means desiring the good for the enemy.  Praying for those who persecute you means not simply praying that God change them or that they stop persecuting you, but that you are lifting them up to God - that you are desiring to see them as God sees them.  You desire to see them in God’s light - with God’s vision.  That you wish God’s blessing upon them - that you can love them with God’s love - that you can love them as God does - without condition.  Using the image of the sun and the rain, Jesus says that the Father does not withhold his love from the bad and the unjust, but treats them the same as the good and the just.  God’s love for us is not dependent on our goodness.  It is the “unusual” nature of God’s love - a love that is greater than our human measure, that pricks the heart of the offender and opens him to the possibility of conversion.  “How is it that this person loves me when I don’t deserve it?”  “Why is this person kind to me when I have not been kind to them?”  We may say that such a way of responding to evil leaves us vulnerable to being taken advantage of.  But it also witnesses to a better way of living that opens a path for another to change.  Does taking advantage of another or responding with a petty tit-for-tat correspond to my heart or am I made for a greater, magnanimous love?  How do I prefer to live?  When public sinners like Zacchaeus and Matthew the tax collector were met with the merciful love of Christ - a love they did not deserve, they left their sinful ways and began to follow the way of Christ’s superabundant love. 

          When I was in grade school, I was picked on and bullied by a bunch of boys in my class.  It was probably normal stuff for a 4th grader, but it still hurt.  One time, a classmate pinched me, and I must have told the teacher or she witnessed it.  Her solution was in line with an “eye for an eye”.  She had me and the offender stand in front of the class and had me pinch him back.  “Let’s see how you like it,” was her method.  Let’s just say, it did not go well for me the next time we had recess.  My parents taught me from a young age not to fight back and not to try to beat them at their game.  Hitting them back or teasing them back in effect was basically validating their behavior.  My parents’ response to the bullying problem was to invite all the boys in my class to my birthday party.  I can’t say that they all became my friends, but it taught me in a concrete way how to love your enemy and to pray for those who persecute you.  It wasn’t so much about converting my classmates but converting me to be the child of God that I was called to be. 

          May we examine our hearts.  Are we bearing hatred for anyone?  Do we have a tendency to hang on to offenses and to hold grudges?  If we are a parent, spouse, teacher, or boss and have the responsibility to reprove others, can we do it without incurring sin?  Let’s not deceive ourselves that the “wisdom of the world” that trades in retributive justice is the way to peace.  It is a vain enterprise.  God’s merciful and unusual love has come into the world.  The extent to which we receive it and share it is how we become perfect as our heavenly Father is perfect.