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29th Sunday in Ordinary Time (C) - October 16, 2022 - “Praying always without becoming weary”

The parable of the persistent widow and the dishonest judge teaches about the necessity for the disciples to pray always without becoming weary not by saying God is like the judge and we will wear him down to grant our requests by continually bothering him with our petitions.  Rather, Jesus tells us that God is not like this judge who doesn’t care about the widow and is only responds when “push comes to shove.”  We are, rather, God’s “chosen ones”.  He wants to be in a relationship with us.  We don’t have to wear ourselves out with prayer.  We are not a “bother” to God with our prayers.  The widow is asking for help against her “adversary”.  Who is our “adversary”?  This is a parable about the spiritual life - our struggle against sin and our longing to be restored to a right relationship with God.  Our adversary is the evil one.  What justifies us - vanquishing sin, Satan, and death -  is not our efforts but God’s mercy and the forgiveness he won for us on the Cross.  God is quick to forgive those who call out to him.  Our salvation or justification is not the elimination of our problems or difficulties, rather it is Jesus himself - a relationship with Him.  Jesus asks at the end of this parable, “But when the Son of Man comes, will he find faith on earth?”  Faith is this relationship with Jesus - recognizing that he is with me, here and now.  His question makes us ask ourselves, “do we pray for God to fix things for us or to get rid of our problems, or do we ask for Him - for a deeper relationship with Him?”  We get weary in prayer and often quit praying if we define God’s presence and his love for us according to our measure - that we get what we want.  Jesus didn’t come to free Israel from an unjust oppressive Roman regime (this is what the Jews were asking for).  He didn’t come to make our life easier.  We reduce the event of Christ to these good and desirable things when Jesus said, “I am the resurrection and the life”.  This is what he came to give us - himself - the resurrection and the life.  He asks us as he asked Martha, “Do you believe this?”  Our belief comes from staying with Jesus and letting his presence invade our life.  “Praying always” is not the constant repetition of prayers or physically or mentally “talking to God” all the time.  Rather, “praying always” is like being in a relationship with someone we love and know intimately such that we begin to see the world and judge the world through their “eyes”.  The presence of the other - a spouse or a child, for example, - changes the way I relate to the world.  Their wants and desires become my own.  To act out of the awareness that my heart belongs to him or her is not wearisome.  This is the relationship that God desires with us. 

          The first reading depicts the victory of Israel over their adversary - a victory made possible through prayer.  When Moses keeps his hands raised up in prayer, the battle goes in Israel’s favor.  When he let his hands rest, the enemy gained ground.  This story of Israel’s victory highlights the necessity of companions in the struggle.  Moses needed Aaron and Hur’s support to remain steady, i.e., stay faithful, in prayer.  What wearies us or tires us out is the thought or the feeling that I’m in this alone - that I have to do this all by myself.  It is the same with our spiritual struggles as it is with our physical challenges.  We need a community of friends to support us in prayer.  We will be overcome - get worn out and weary - if we try to go into battle alone.  The victory over sin and death in our life - our deeper relationship with Jesus - cannot take place apart from a community of the faithful.  Without a community - without friends - we cannot persevere in prayer and in the relationship with Christ.  Our friends become reminders of who we belong to because we’ve had the same experience of being “chosen” by Christ.  Being chosen by Christ is what we have in common and what has formed our friendship.  The face of our friend reminds us of Christ and that we are not alone on the journey. 

          If it weren’t for my friends, I don’t think I would be persistent in prayer.  It is through sharing life with my friends that my faith is sustained.  By praying together - asking for prayers - and praying for their intentions - I become more attentive to Christ’s presence in our life.  For most of my priesthood, I’ve gotten together weekly with a group of friends.  We read a spiritual text together and share how what is said in the text about Jesus is true for each of us in our lives.  There are two scripture reflection groups at the parish that I participate in weekly.  I persist with these friends - stay in these relationships - because I am eager to hear the word that the Lord has for me - often a word that challenges or corrects me or a word of consolation.  By staying in these relationships, I am changed.  And I know the Lord through the change he works in me through these friendships.  My vocation to the priesthood came through being persistent in prayer, but I wasn’t praying for God to tell me what to do with my life.  I was praying for my grandfather who was sick in the hospital with a massive heart attack.  I so wanted him to get better.  I started to go to daily Mass to pray for him.  Being with a community of faith daily, hearing the word of God daily, receiving Holy Communion daily along with the human friendships that were formed in this practice changed me.  My grandfather died but a new life was born in me - a deeper faith was born in me, and God revealed to me soon after that I was called to be a priest.  I don’t think I would have discovered my vocation if I prayed simply about a “problem” I wanted God to solve for me.  We are to persist in prayer because through that persistence, God is working in our lives in ways that we cannot see. 

          Do not think of prayer as another thing to do - something that you have to get done.  It is not a work we offer God but a space in which we allow God to work in us - through the relationships he gives us.  Who are your prayer partners?  Those who will prayer with you and for you?  Does anyone ask you to pray for them?  We should not be afraid to ask for prayers.  Praying with others and for others - helping others to pray - walking with them in the journey of faith is how we know the Lord better and grow in faith.